Tuesday 29 September 2009

Grudges Between Husband and Wife - A True Story

I received a forwarded email in my inbox today..

"....This story touched me. I hope it touches you too..

This is a true story which has touched many readers. As it is quite a long story, reserve it (if you haven't got the time) and read it only when you are in a more relaxed mood.

In either case, do make it a point to savour everyline until the end. This is for all the single, married, divorced, widowed individuals, who take life for granted.

Please, read this story until the end. It is such an eye opener.
You never Know........ .!

Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us.

Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree.

You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today.

I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery.

Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round.

As I begged him to put me down, he said: "Lets go fetch mother." Hubby is tall and big sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment put the tiny me into his pockets.

Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy.

I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.

Mother brought along her countryside habits and lifestyle with her.

For example; I am so used to buying flowers to decorate the living room, she could not stand it and would comment:

"I do not know how you young people spend your money, why do you buy flowers for?

You also can't eat flowers!" I smiled and said: "Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood will also become better.."

Mother continues to grumble away, and hubby smiled: "Mum, this is a city-people' s habit; slowly you will get use to it."

Mother stopped saying anything. But every time thereafter, whenever came home with flowers, she would ask me how much it costs.

I told her and she would shake her head and express displeasure.

Sometimes, when I come home with lots of shopping bags, she would ask each and every item how much they cost, I would tell her honestly and she would get even more upset about it.

Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything would solve it."

There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle.

Mother hates it most when hubby wakes up early to prepare the breakfast.

In your view, how could the man of the house cook for the wife?

At the breakfast table, mother facial expression is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm and I would pretend not to notice.

She would use her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her silent protest.

As I am a dance teacher in the Children's Palace and am exhausted from along day of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the protest mother makes.

From time to time, mother would help out with some housework, but soon her help created additional
work for me.

For example: she would keep all kinds of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell them later on, and resulted in our house being filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly wash them again.

One day, late at night, mother saw me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room.

Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after that, he did not speak to me for that entire night..

I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting cute, but he totally ignored me....

I got mad and asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once?

We couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however unclean it is, right?"

After that incident, for a long period of time, mother did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a very awkward feeling hanging in the house.

During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in dilemma as to who to please.

In order to stop her son from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the "all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting.

At the breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his breakfast and cast that reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform my duty as a wife.

To avoid the embarrassing breakfast situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on my way to work.

That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and asked me:

"LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?"

He then turned his back on me and left me alone in tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me.

After some time, hubby sighed: "LD, just for me, can you have breakfast at home?"

I am left with no choice but to return to the breakfast table.

The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and everything inside seem to be rushing up my throat.

I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I could not.

I threw down the bowl, rushed into the washroom, and vomited everything out..

Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with fire burning in his eyes..

I opened my mouth but no words came out of it, I really did not mean it.

We had our very first big fight that day; mother took a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way out of the house.

Hubby gave me a final stare in the eye and followed mother down the stairs.

For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a phone call.

I was so furious, since mother arrived; I had been trying my best and putting up with her, what else do you want me to do?

For no reason, I keep having the feeling to throw up and I simply have not appetite for food, coupled with all the events happening at home, I was at then low point in my life..

Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look terrible; you should go and see a doctor."

The doctor confirmed that I am pregnant.

Now it became clear to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news.

Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this before, thought of the possibility of this being the reason that day?

At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing there.

It had only been three days, but he looked haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist and called out to him.

He followed my voice and finally found me but he pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through my heart.

I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a cab.

At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!" and have him lift me up and spin me around in circles of joy.

What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the cab, my tears started rolling down.

Why? Why our love couldn't even withstand the test of one fight?

Back home, I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the disgusted look in his eyes.

I cried and wet the corner of the blanket.

That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up.

I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears rolling down his face.

He was removing the money. I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the bank deposit book and some money and left the house.

Maybe he really intends to leave me for good.

What a rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters.

I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming down again.

The next day, I did not go to work. I wanted to clear this out and have a good talk with hubby.

I reached his office and his secretary gave me a weird
look and said:

"Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in the hospital."

I stood there in shock.

I rushed to the hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had already passed away.

Hubby did not look at me, his face was expressionless.

I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I couldn't control the tears in my eyes.

My god, how could this happen?

Throughout the funeral, hubby did not say a single word to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare at me.

I only managed to find out brief facts about the accident from other people.

That day, after mother left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently intending to go back to her old house back in the countryside.

As hubby ran after her, she tried to walk faster and as she tried to cross the street, a public bus came and hit her...

I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled, if....

In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his mother.

Hubby moved into mother's room and came home every night with a strong liquor smell on him.

And me, I am buried under the guilt and self-pity and could hardly breathe.

I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of my mouth just fell back in.

I had rather he hit me real hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though none of these events happening had been my fault at all.

Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the days went by, hubby came home later and later.

The deadlock between us continues, we were living together like strangers who don't know each other.

I am like the dead knot in his heart.

One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting facing each other and he very lightly brushed her hair for her, I understood what it meant.

After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared hard at him, not a tear in my eyes.

I have nothing to say to him, and there is no need to say anything.

The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and stopped her.

He stared back at me,challenging me.

I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one by one as if at the brink of death.

I eventually backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will collapse together with the baby inside me.

That night, he did not come home; he had chosen to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following mother's death so did our love for each other.

He did not come home anymore after that.

Sometimes, when I returned home from work, I can tell that the cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take some of his stuff..

I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire to explain everything to him vanished.

I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups alone, my heart breaks again and again every time I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the physical examination.

My office colleagues hinted to me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I will not..

I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death.

One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the living room.

The whole house was filled with cigarette smoke.

On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper.

I know what it is all about without even looking at it.

In the two months plus of living alone, I have gradually learned to find peace within myself.

I looked at him, removed my hat and said: "You wait a while, I will sign."

He looked at me, mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine.

As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself "You cannot cry, you cannot cry...." my eyes hurt terribly, but I refused to let tears come out from there.

After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared fixed at my bulging tummy. I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and pulled the paper towards me.

Without even looking at what it says, I signed my name on it and pushed the paper to him. "LD, are you pregnant?"

Since mother's accident, this is the first time he spoke to me. I could not control my tears any further and they fell like raindrops.

I said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now."

He did not go.

In the dark, we sat, facing each other..

Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the blanket.

In my heart, everything seems so far away, so far that even if I sprint, I could never reach them.

I cannot remember how many times he repeated "sorry" to me.

I had originally thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't.

In the western restaurant, in front of that girl, that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget, ever.

We have drawn such deep scars in each other's heart.

For me, it's unintentional; for him, totally intentional.

I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation, but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever and could not repeated.

Other than the thought of the baby inside me that would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he buys for me, I don't take any presents from him and I stopped talking to him.

From the moment I signed on that piece of paper, marriage and love had vanished from my heart.

Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk out to the living room.

He had no choice but to sleep in mother's room.

At night, from his room, I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet.

This used to be his trick; last time, whenever I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will surrender and find out what is wrong with him, he would then grab me and laugh.

He has forgotten that last time I cared for him and am concerned because there was love, but now, what is there between us?

Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing but I continuously ignored him.

Almost everyday, he would buy something for the baby, infant products, children products and books that kids like to read.

Bags and bags of it stacked inside his room till it is full.

I know he is trying to use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer moved by his actions.

He has no choice but to lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now addicted to web surfing but none of that matters to me anymore.

It was sometime towards the end of Spring in the following year, one late night, I screamed because of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and had been waiting for this moment.

He carried me and ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow, throughout the journey to the hospital.

Once we reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried into the delivery suite.

Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a thought crossed my mind:

In my lifetime, who else would love me as much as he did?

He held the delivery suite door opened and watch me go in; his warm eyes caused me to manage a smile at him despite my contraction pain.

Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at our son and me, eyes tear with joy and he kept smiling.

I reached out and touched his hand.. Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly collapsed onto the floor.

I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but without opening that tired eyes of his...

I had thought that I would never shed any tear for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment.

Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage and it was a miracle that he managed to last this long.

I asked the doctor when he first discovered he had cancer.. Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me saying:

"Prepare for his funeral."

I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed home, I went into his room and checked his computer, and a suffocating pain hits me.

Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his groaning was real, and

I had thought that.... the computer showed over 200 thousand words he wrote for our son:

"Son, just for you, I have persisted, to be able to take a look at you before I fall, is my biggest wish now...

I know that in your life, you will have many happiness and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany you throughout that journey, how nice would it be..

But daddy now no longer has that chance.

Daddy has written inside here all the possible difficulties and problems you may encounter during your lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you can refer to daddy's suggestion.. . ..

Son, after writing these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied you through life journey.

To be honest, daddy is very happy.

Do love your mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves you most and also the one who loves me most...

" From play school to primary school, to secondary, university, to work and even in dealing with questions of love, everything big and small was written there.

Hubby has also written a letter for me:
"My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness, forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive me for not telling you my illness, because I want to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the arrival of our baby....

My dear, if you cried, it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile, thank you for loving me...

These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to our son personally, could you help me to give some of them to him every year, the dates on what to give when are all written on the packaging... "

Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in coma.

I brought our son over and place him beside him.

I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..."

He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak smile.

Our son still in his arms was happily waving his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the camera and the sound of the shutter rang through the air as tears slowly rolled down my face.....

A fatal misunderstanding and the person who loves me the most in this world is gone forever...

"Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted the blissful footsteps to our family.

Our original intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful moments in her remaining years with us went terribly wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a price, every thing became too late."...... ...

This is a true story.
I am totally speechless, this story brought tears to my eyes as I read through each line eager to know what would happen next. It truly showed the devastating power of grudges and anger!

Simple humility and communication would have resolved most of the problems in that story, as well as patience....

This story has really touched my heart and life as a whole and it has stimulated a paradigm shift.

Though it is very sad, it is also very refreshing to know that from today, I can consciously start to live a life free of grudge.

In life, offenses are inevitable.

But holding a grudge is a choice we consciously make.

Communication is key..."

Mama Zharfan

Simply impressive...

yepp...lots of pro compers around...
and me got to know some of Malaysian pro-compers via emenang.com.
(oh yess..i got the above paper cutting from emenang.com as well..)

Comping is simply a rewarding hobby...u may win ur dream prizes...if not today, sooner or later...one sweet day..Insya Allah..nothing is impossible!

note : congrats to all my buddy compers with their latest winnings...ayu won cash in yeo's, CMa won Johnson's contest, ezna one of finalists boh-tv3 open hse, hidayah won johnson loving touch contest, and not forgetting jingjing with a long list of her winning as usual... You guys are simply amazing!! May we win more & more!! Amiin..

Me not feeling today plus occupied with thesis writing..
Mama Zharfan

Monday 28 September 2009

Si Comel Berbaju Raya Contest

Me wanna join the above contest..

so here is my copy paste from Baby Ibu's blog...

Cara Penyertaan
Pertandingan dibahagikan kepada Kategori A (Boys) dan Kategori B (Girls)
  • Pertandingan dibahagikan kepada dua fasa:
  • Fasa 1: 23 September 2009 – 15 Oktober 2009 - Semua peserta submit gambar Si Comel Berbaju Raya.
  • Fasa 2: 16 Oktober 2009 – 31 Oktober 2009 - Top Ten akan dipilih. Pemenang akan dipilih berdasarkan undian.

Syarat Penyertaan

  • Jadi Follower BabyIbu dan add BabyIbu dalam bloglist anda--done
  • Letak banner di sidebar blog anda dengan link ke entri ini--done
  • Membuat entri mengenai contest ini diblog anda--this entry ;)
  • Dalam entri itu, upload satu (1) gambar si comel anda berbaju raya (berbaju raya = baju kurung/baju melayu)--see below
  • Sila nyatakan nama si comel dan umurnya--see below
  • Dalam entri tersebut pastikan anda mention dan link ke BabyIbu dan semua sponsor (no link back will be disqualified)
  • Bila dah siap, tinggalkan link entri anda di entri ini.
Here is my pic entry for both of my boys:

Name : Ahmad Zharfan Shah
Age : 4 years old

Name : Ahmad Ariff Shah
Age : 5 months old


Bagi Kategori A:

Hadiah Pertama
-Casual Meg daripada Gin & Jacqie
-Necklace by S daripada Sherry
-120 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online
-RM30 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop

Hadiah Kedua
-Reversible gemstone ring imported from US daripada TH
-RM10 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop
-80 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online

Hadiah Ketiga
-Eyeko: Silver shopper (imported from UK) daripada Mia
-RM10 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop
-40 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online

Bagi Kategori B:

Hadiah Pertama
-Colorful Sally daripada Gin & Jacqie
-Pretty Birdie Earrings daripada Niko
-120 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online
-RM30 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop

Hadiah Kedua
-Reversible gemstone ring imported from US daripada TH
-RM10 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop
-80 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online

Hadiah Ketiga
-Eyeko badges and postcard set (imported from UK) daripada Mia
-RM10 Gift Card daripada leanalittleshop
-40 pieces of 4R photo prints daripada eoe Online

Hadiah Misteri
Terdapat hadiah misteri khas untuk referrer terbanyak sepanjang tempoh contest (diadili guna Google Analytics)..

Sebarang pertanyaan boleh tinggalkan di ruangan komen..so mehla ramai-ramai sertai..

P/s: Jutaan terima kasih kepada sponsors kita..Gin & Jacqie, eoe Online, leanalittleshop, Sherry, TH, Mia dan Niko..

ok, done! thanks yer BabyIbu for the contest ;)

Mama Zharfan & Ariff


me so delighted to receive goodies won from various contests...

these are the stuff that were delivered to my office which I collected this morning...

*kain pasang + tudung bawal + bracelet (accessories) + voucher Body Shop + kad raya ==> from Nik @MeDai MeDai's blog!!

*Tripo-X (slimming pills) + pink Tote bag <--I like...., all from InTrend mag

*VCD from MOBS blog (siblings pic contest)

and some more prize....
*Estee Lauder EDP 50 ml from cosmopolitan mag (worth RM210)

and also this balang kiuh raya (set of 3) won from Lucky Draw at Ezna's open house (TV3-Boh)

Me feel blessed,
Mama Zharfan

Some raya pics...

Jom layan some pics of me and my family during hari raya....

my family in BIRU sedondon

my Ariff and his nenek ;)

posing with my brother- ja and his wife emi, and their cutie pie -->e-ham
pic beramai2 at my elder brother's open house (note-my hubby not in picture-he was elsewhere during this event)

Me still in raya mood...
Mama Zharfan

Saturday 26 September 2009

Cutest Baby Pocoyo Contest : Pre-Loved Fisher Price Give Away

is having the above contest.

Let's check it out!!

1.Become a follower of my blog and leave a comment to let me know (or, if you are already a follower, tell me that too!)--done

2.Blog about this giveaway and describe your child in 5 words and elaborate them(English/Bahasa).Then leave a comment with the link to your post on my giveaway entry.Open to boys and girls.

My child in 5 words :


All parents would see their child cute in their eyes..me no exception...so my boy-Zharfan stays cute in my eyes, handsome boy and will soon grow up as a handsome man (time really flies...), being 4 years old now he's forever adorable, his radiant facial expression, look, big shining eyes are the best thing that ever came to my life, and he has made my life marvellous and worth living for, every single second of it! Precisely he's been and will always be my lil prince CHARMing, right from the day he was born!!!

3.Sent ONE cutest style with SNOW CAP(For example:photo above-any colours)

so here is the pic...my Zharfan in black snow cap (the cap actually belong to my brother ;) :p

4.Age:Newborn-6 Years Old,only ONE child.
--ok (my boy is 4 years old now, the pic was taken when he was 8 months old)

5.Copy paste the sticky mode and put it on the side bar.--done

The contest closes on 1st October 2009,12pm.A Winner will be chosen using random(greatest pocoyo style),greatest blog about give away and 5 greatest elaborated words and announced within a week.Thanks for participating!

Only ONE winner!--ok

1st Prize:Fisher Price bouncer and Fisher Price Playmat!!--lovely!!!

Ok, done!!

Mama Zharfan

contest wansteddy: love teddy bear

is having the above contest..

I wanna join, so let's check out the rules:

1. Jadi follower wansteddy. --done

2. Taruk link blog wansteddy kat bloglist anda.--done

3. Tepek banner contest wansteddy kat sidebar blog anda.--done

4. Sediakan satu n3 yang bertajuk contest wansteddy: love teddy bear.--this entry lor...
5. Adakah anda meminati teddy bear? Berikan jawapan ya atau tidak.

6. Tepek gambar mana2 gambar anda atau ahli keluarga anda yang paling anda sukai. Tak kisah la gambar masa kecik mahupun gambar terkini. Pastikan gambarnya jelas. Anda dialu-alukan meletakkan gambar bersama teddy bear (tiada paksaan).
so here is the pic entry...

7. Ceritakan kenapa anda sukakan gambar tersebut.

i love this pic sbb it shows moments of joy & happiness of my lil sweetheart, Zharfan. I tgh gurau2 with him, and noticing that he has such a sweet expression when he laughs heartily (sesi memuji anak sendiri)...plus the perfect teeth (my boy suka berus gigi and he doesn't like sweets or sweet drink ;)
oh yess...the pose also shows the Barney bolster..one of his fav...he has a collection of Barney (kind of teddy's jugaklah)...teddy bear all belongs to me hohoho...so my boy collects and keeps Barney for himself :p

Hadiahnya akan aku beritahu kelak. Pastinya berkaitan dengan teddy bear.--OK!!!

OK, Done! thanks wansteddy!!

Mama Zharfan

Friday 25 September 2009

"My Glamour Picture Contest"

I'm taking part in the above contest by Reflisia.

Let's check it out..

1. Terbuka kepada semua blogger--OK
2. Anda diwajibkan menjadi Follower blog http://cincinmasmerah.blogspot.com/serta add link blog ini dalam blog list anda --DONE
3. Sila pastikan gambar (banner) di atas di sidebar blog anda and banner tersebut mestilah link kepada entry contest ini, gune link ni:
4. anda bleh buat entry "My Glamour Picture Contest" dengan memuatkan sekeping gambar anda yang paling glamour, nama anda dan ceritakan serba sedikit kenapa anda merasakan gambar anda itu glamour.

My name : Suzy @ Mama Zharfan

SO...here is my most glamer pic :p

Actually, ni gambar raya 2009, taken on first day raya (few days ago)...ni posing lepas balik solat raya kat masjid..

kenapa anda merasakan gambar anda itu glamour...

-sbb i pakai baju raya-->pose dgn bj raya & selendang kilat2 hehehhe (ni selendang i beli masa masuk contest Mummy Gorgeous few years back), then simpan jer selendang tu kat dlm almari..tak guna pun, so raya ni i guna lah sbb match dgn tema kaler raya tahun ni.. ;)

-baju raya ni i beli kat a butik kat Jln TAR..harga emmm..secreto...for me kira kategori my baju yg agak mahal...tp sbb raya punya pasal...ku beli jugak :p

-rasa glamer sbb pic baju ni dah tersiar kat majalah Sri Dewi Keluarga bulan Sept 2009, di gayakan oleh model pro(aka pelakon, rasanyer nama dia YATT) mcm kat bwh ni...

-so bila pakai baju ni, rasa glamer & feel good
-i put on some make up jugak on my face...raya beb...heheh

5. Pastikan di dalam entry anda ada dinyatakan link2 tersebut (no link back will be disqualified):


6. Setelah siap entry tersebut, sila tinggalkan URL-link-contest-anda di ruangan comment pada entry ini sebagai tanda pengesahan anda menyertai contest ini.
7. Pemenang akan dipilih oleh juri profesional (penganjur yang pilih) berdasarkan photo anda yang paling glamour.
8. Contest ini bermula 22hb Ogos 2009 sehingga 30hb September 2009. lama skit coz nak bagi peluang anda semua upload gambar glamour masa raya nanti..hehehhe
9. Hadiahnyer akan diberitahu next entry.Tungguuuuuuu...
P/s: gambar anda hendaklah yang terkini dan tidak lebih dari 3 tahun ke belakang.

everything done!!!
Mama Zharfan

Saturday 19 September 2009

Raya is much lovelier...with...I.N.T.R.E.N.D + I.C.E.A.G.E.

My hubby arrived at kampung yesterday morning...
-->me missed him oredi ;)

anyway, he told me that my IceAge-InTrend prizes have been delivered to us (pretty fast...!!), so me so very2 happy lor as usual..

here is what I got...

I love all...especially the heart-shape mug
and the wrist watch +alarm clock
and of course the flip flop!!!

Berbaloi me buy & read InTrend ;)

Me in raya mood,
Mama Zharfan

my pink jam raya

finally, i got to hold and wear my jam raya on my wrist...

feel good hehehhe ;)

i love pink....and i love GUESS!!!

Happy me,
Mama Zharfan

DUMEX impian ceria si manjaku ;)

my friend Ezna gave me a call last 2 days, that she was one of the conso winners...

yesterday, Ayu, another good friend of mine also informing me that she won too, so does siemma, our friend..

i was a lil bit upset, since I joined that contest toooo..yet no call from Dumex...
and finally, yesterday eve...the much-awaiting call came in...yup...from DUMEX...and me also is one of the 160 conso winners, won RM400 RHB savings account for my boy..
Alhamdulillah!! duit raya for my boy ;)

Mama Zharfan

Wednesday 16 September 2009

yesss...me won contest di sini kisah coklatku bermula

alhamdulillah...another rezeki ramadhan..
me won 2nd prize in the choc contest by sitisifir

and the prize is...

Praline Chocolate : Premium Chocolate (32pcs) + Kurma Chocolate(24pcs)

the prize would definitely be the sweetest gift for my hubby's belated birthday!!!

note: thanks mama tisya for informing about the result in my shoutbox ;)

to sitisifir, thanks for organizing the contest, and many2 thanks to the sponsor too-->coklathalal!!!

feel blessed with sweet winning,
mama zharfan

2009 Cute Baby In Stroller/Pram Contest

Mummy Ameer is having the above contest, runs until 23rd Sept..

Let's check it out..

1. Of course u must be the follower of mummyameer--done
2. Sila add dan link kan banner di sebelah pada sidebar.--done
3. Buat special entry utk contest ini dan sertakan sekali sekeping gambar baby/toddler di dalam prams ataupun stroller anda.--here is the entry pic:
-->The above pic was taken near the lift at Prince Court Medical Centre (masa pergi melawat adik ipar i).
Ariff is in Anakku buggy, while his abang (Zharfan) is sleeping in Sweet Cherry stroller. Actually, the buggy belongs to Zharfan and the stroller belongs to Ariff, but they use it interchangeably. The buggy is much smaller in size and more convenient...the stroller is meant for sleeping, since Zharfan fell sleep first, Mama put him in the stroller, tapi kaki dia mcm terlebih panjang to fit Ariff's stroller :p :p ...my lil carboot is now packed with these two strollers everytime we have an outing..huhuhu..oh yess, both buggy+stroller are in
orange colour--our fav colour ;)
--> I like this pic because i think it's soooo sweet to see both my beloved boys in their stroller/buggy...feel blessed...and feel proud too ....pushing them around for outing & sight-seeing in their strollers! it is even cuter if they fall asleep in their strollers...lena plak tido dlm stroller tu...

4. Link kn blog mummyameer.--done

Keputusan akan diadili oleh panel bebas berdasarkan keaslian dan kreativiti gambar yang dihantardan hadiah serta pemenang akan diumumkan pada 29 sept

Sila tinggalkan komen di shoutbox setelah entry disiapkan.--done

Selamat Mencuba! :)!



Mama Zharfan & Ariff

Tuesday 15 September 2009

5 months...

Some latest updates of my lil Ariff...

~he turns 5 months today

~has been on solid food ie Milna baby biscuit since the last 2 days

~has been down with cough since last few days...me bring him to see Dr Rujhan (paed) at KBMC this morning, and Ariff is now on 7-day-antibiotic, due to infection in his throat & ear<--tak tau mcm mana boleh dpt infection ni out of blue huhuh

~first day me using Cloth Diaper brand Coolababy for Ariff...one hour after I put on CD, Ariff poo poo...hohoho..me handwash the CD, and to my relief and delight, pretty easy to wash it!!
~he weughs 6.9 kg...td timbang masa kat KBMC

that's all
--> the above updates is specially dedicated to Papa Ariff...Ariff misses Papa too..especially time nak tido...;)

Mama Ariff

COOLABABY ClothDiaper GIVEAWAY !!!.... :)

Sarah is having the above giveaway (lucky draw based), runs from 4 SEPT - 30 SEPT !!!
let's check out this RAYA GIVEAWAY PROMO!
Prize :
1WETBAG + 1CD(w. 1 insert)+1cute legging!

1. Buat 1 entry dan promote pasal GIVEAWAY ni & blog ni kt blog korang :) --done!
2. Pehtu jgn lupe link kan blog ni kt blog korang...--done!
3. Pastikan korang signup utk jadi follower blog nih...
4. Last sekali dah selesai suma yg diatas...
sila tinggalkan komen / msg supaya kite leh link blk blog awak dan pastikan awk tersenarai lam peraduan nih...ok
5. Pemenangnyer akan dipilih mll cabutan bertuah yg akan divideokan nnt :)--ok!!


Oh yer...there's also sale of CD for raya promo...pls check at Sarah's blog!!

Mama Zharfan

MyDearShoppe - Aidilfitri GiveAway Contest

MyDearShoppe is having the above giveaway, which runs till today..hohoho..

let's check it out:

1) terbuka kepada semua blogger yang berminat untuk mendapatkan mydearshoppe e-shop giveaway.--OK

2) Diwajibkan menjadi follower blog mydearshoppe e-shop dan add link blog ini dalam blog list anda.--DONE

3) Sila letakkan gambar di atas sebagai banner di sidebar blog masing2 dan banner tersebut hendaklah di link kepada entry contest ini. Guna link ini

4) Sila buat special entry contest ini dan sertakan :
- sekeping gambar gaya comel Si Cilik anda memakai CD (any brand)..Gaya-gaya tercomel akan dipilih sebagai model slideshow di blog mydearshoppe e-shop. Sila nyatakan Nama Penuh Bayi Anda ye...Hanya seorang pemenang akan memiliki mydearshoppe e-shop giveaway--SEE BELOW
- Rekaan TAGLINE untuk mydearshoppe e-shop. Tagline yg menarik, unik dan sesuai dengan jenis perniagaan kami akan secara rasminya menjadi tagline e-shop ini. Anda boleh letakkan TAGLINE tersebut di dalam entry anda

5) Sila jawab 2 soalan wajib
- kenapa anda harus mendapatkan mydearshoppe e-shop giveaway?
-->it's gonna be a perfect hari raya gift for my lil baby, most importantly to add to my Ariff's CD collection...I'm still in the trial process/experimental with CD...and the CD in the pic as worn by Ariff is the first ever CD (and the only one so far) that I bought...and thinking of adding more...it would be a lot NICER if I could win this giveaway for my Ariff...that goes without saying lor... ;)

- sejauh mana anda tahu mengenai blog mydearshoppe e-shop ini?
--> I stumbled upon this blog while doing some blog walking..and of course was attracted to join this giveaway, and now adding MYDEARSHOPPE as my e-store for CD in my list for my future Cd purchase, as my first CD for Ariff also I bought online.

6) Setelah siap entry tersebut, sila tinggalkan URL-link-contest anda di ruangan comment pada entry ini sebagai tanda anda SAH menyertai contest ini. Ini juga bagi memudahkan juri membuat terjahan ke blog anda.--OK

7) Hadiah MyDearShoppe - Aidilfitri GiveAway Contest adalah SEKEPING LUNATOTS PRINTED SNAP BUTTON CLOTH DIAPER seperti gambar di bawah.--BESTNYE KALAU MENANG !!!

Ok, here is the pic entry for the giveaway:

My baby's name : Ahmad Ariff Shah (exactly 5 months old today)..posing in CD (navy blue colour) in his fav pose ie holding one leg ;) :p

My tagline for MyDearShoppe:..
"...because your dear lil munchkin deserves a greener earth...and the cutest of everything!"


Mama Zharfan & Ariff

Duit Raya – MySuperKids Special Aidilfitri Giveaway

This entry is to promote the above giveaway...by Mommy Lyna..
the following is my copy paste from her blog:

The PRIZES will be:


PETRONAS fuel voucher worth RM70

Special blog review by MySuperKids


PETRONAS fuel voucher worth RM50


PETRONAS fuel voucher worth RM30

How to join?

Very easy-peasy. Sangat-sangat senang.

Just copy and paste this below code to your sidebar, and inform us when you’re done. Simple, ain’t it?

Copy code kat bawah ni dan paste saja di sidebar. (make sure copy semua sebab unfortunately box ni tak ada frame…), start dengan


Don’t forget to inform kalau dah buat! Nanti kot ada yang tertinggal pulak :D

The winner will be selected by LUCKY DRAW! Seperti biasa ia akan di-draw-kan oleh dua orang hakim berkaliber kita.

Pssstt… Setiap satu penyertaan akan dapat 1 nombor a.k.a. 1 peluang cabutan, TAPI anda berpeluang untuk dapat berpeluang2 lagi, dengan melakukan ini:-

  1. Tampalkan code di atas di sidebar – 1 KAD CABUTAN <— ini syarat wajib utk sertai giveaway ni.
  2. Buat satu entry ringkas, just copy+paste code di atas juga dalam entry anda – 1 LAGI KAD CABUTAN.
  3. Buat satu lagi entry tentang giveaway ni dengan backlink ke MySuperKids – 1 LAGI KAD CABUTAN.
  4. Add MySuperKids.net di blogroll – 1 LAGI KAD CABUTAN (yg dah add pun dikira).
  5. Masukkan link entry ini di FaceBook (notes/status/wall,etc.) – 1 LAGI KAD CABUTAN.
  6. Masukkan link entry ini di Twitter – 1 LAGI KAD CABUTAN.
  7. Kalau ada lebih dari satu blog dan buat benda yang sama – CABUTAN DIKIRA 2 KALI.

Makin banyak anda buat, makin banyaklah peluang untuk menang :D

Senang je kan?

*this giveaway is open to everybody and anybody. if you don’t have blog and you’re interested to be in, just create a simple blog with www.blogger.com or www.wordpress.com or any bloghosting your prefer and just do the same thing :) Senang kan.

**this giveaway is closed on 30 September 2009 (still mood raya lagi kan? Open house tak habis lagi tu)

Join jgn tak join...;)


Mama Zharfan


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